I MUST KNOW WHO YOU LOVE NOW OR I WILL DIE

Ok, so I don't normally talk about sexuality with people who aren't close friends or significant others, but I recently posted a blog about how bisexuality isn't taken seriously. This was one of the emails conversations I had in response:





First off, here's this guy's profile:

What I'm Doing With My Life:
I am a college student working toward a dual degree of Electrical Enginnering/Computer Science. So I will have two degrees! I have a 4.0 so far, and I don't intend for that to change. I also lift weights pretty seriously. I do good at these things because I know they are hard work, they take time, and there are no quick fixes.

I'm Really Good At:
I love to create complex things. I am a great artist, and I like to draw, paint, sculpt, etc. Art!. I also like to write computer programs.

You should message me if:
You are cute. You are very smart. You can draw well. You have blue or green eyes.



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Him: men and women are so different.. how could you like both?

Me: Think about your ex girlfriends. Were they the same? Even the people I've dated of the same sex were nothing alike.

Also, I felt like noting, since you're so concerned with your intelligence on your profile, that it's not

"I do good at these things..."

but

"I do well at these things..."

Might as well correctly portray the genius you apparently are, right? ;)

Him: Crap you're right... I must have lived in Texas for too long. Yee-haw! Back to the question at hand... do you plan on finding one person to be with for the rest of your life? Which gender do you picture them to be? All of the girls i have been with have acted in one general way - feminine.

Me: I have no idea what gender I'll end up with. To me, that's sort of like saying "Well, what hair color do you feel you'll end up with? They're all so different." I don't really care as long as we're in love, really.

Him: Do you prefer the body of a man or the body of a woman? You only have two distinct choices there. Also, you cant tell me that a girl would make you feel safe and protected when you are walking down the street at night.

Me: I feel like I'm talking through time to someone in the 1950s. Most of the time, I'm walking down the street at night ALONE, so whether or not I have some big strong man to protect my apparently helpless self is sort of irrelevant.

And again, I have no preference about their body. My "ideal" man and "ideal" woman are equal in preference in my mind. You're exactly the type of person I was talking about in that journal entry. Not everything is black or white, one or the other.

Him: You seem to have ironed these ideas out thouroughly in your mind. That is exactly what it is- You have purposefully molded your own mind to think in this sort of idealistic way. Congratulations- you are the only person ever to like two things exactly equally. Nobody likes ANY two things exactly equally. Are you even willing to admit whether you like apples or oranges better? Or maybe you prefer oranges that think they are apples? Either you have a vagina, or a penis. ONE or the OTHER. By the way- You are a GIRL, and you ARE helpless. Ask a doctor, and then get into a fight with a man to prove it to yourself.

Me: I give up on you. I hope you never breed.